When you’re in your twenties, you often find yourself living in a variety of situations highly unconducive to practicing the Craft: dorm rooms, roommates, at home with your parents. While you may feel restricted in your options, here are a couple of tips to adapt your practice.
- Electric candles: Many residents’ life or student life organizations restrict the use of candles and incense. These are fairly cheap and have worked well in my adapted practice.
- Reed Diffusers: Again with the restrictions on smoke. They come in many pretty scents and blends and are easy to change out. If you want a scent for a small period of time, like you would an incense stick, try putting a few drops of essential oil on an electric tea light. It only burns a few minutes, perfect for spellwork.
- Roommates: My best advice is to be open with them, or at least be as open as you can. Tell them why you need them to clear out for a couple of hours on Samhain. You never know, they may ask to join you. If all else fails, offer to clear out yourself on another night so they can have alone time with their partner. Always works for me!
- Small altars: Windowsills make great altars. So do bookshelves, chair rails, and corners of dressers. Find a space, keep it meaningful. Don’t clutter it with supplies. Only put on it the most special objects. BE creative and have fun!
- THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT THING: You can do anything, with or without supplies. All you need is your connection with the Goddess. Well, and maybe a piece of chocolate to replenish the lost energy.
Got any more tips? Share them please!
© Ariadne Woods
So I want to share an experience. A couple of weeks ago I started a new job. Like many young twenty-somethings, it’s an unpaid but rich in experience type of deal. However I’m enjoying myself immensely, so I don’t mind not making money. One of my coworkers, I’m going to call her Mary, started around the same time I did. I knew she was starting and looked her up on Facebook. From the second I saw her page, I knew she was Pagan even though it was not covered in her Religious Views section. I am super discrete on Facebook about my Witchness, so I didn’t know if she knew. We worked on a project together and were talking about tastes in food. I mentioned I used to not eat meat (I will cover this in another post), and she asked why. I paused and said for religious reasons. Nine times out of ten people drop it when I say that, but Mary went through a list of faiths until she got to Pagan. “Me too!” she said and we’ve been in a constant dialogue about our faith ever since.
It’s been a couple of weeks since we began talking, and I think it’s strengthened the relationship between my spiritual life and my professional life. It’s opened moments in both our lives in which we bring in faith and spirituality that was previously reserved for small talk. Also, I’ve felt like I’ve made a good friend with a deeper connection with Mary, which has made it really easy to work together. This is my favorite job so far because I have this deeper connection with the people I’m working with.
I encourage you to reach out to your coworkers and get to know them on a spiritual level. It doesn’t matter if they’re Pagan or Christian or Jewish or Muslim, or Buddhist or Hindu or whatever! I truly think that the more understanding and more dialogue people have, the smoother it makes community go. For a workplace, this is crucial for the success of the business or the organization. So stop talking about nothing and engage in discussion.
© Ariadne Woods
Remaking yourself can be hard. You stumble, fall, make a mistake, fail a test, hang out with the wrong people, cut someone off on the highway, drop the f-bomb at work, piss someone off, fall off the bandwagon, get on a bandwagon. I am a firm believer in the first impression. It’s the hardest thing in the world to change who you are in the eyes of others.
It’s even harder to change how you see yourself.
Lately, I’ve been feeling different. Vibrant, powerful, wanderlustful, sexy, confident, NOT ME. Or at least any recent version of me. It’s scary. I am beginning to trust myself in a way that I haven’t done in years. I’ve worn LIPSTICK to work every day this week. What the hell is going on?
One drawback: this sudden resurgence of feeling has loosened the effectiveness of spells, mainly ones connected to my emotions. I’m hoping it’s just things coming back around for me to deal with them and actually move on. It’s painful. Do I reset the spells? Do I leave them be?
Despite the highs and lows, I feel something rising in me, a newness. Something big is on the horizon for me. I’m paying attention and changing accordingly.
© Ariadne Woods