Whether you’re a Solitary Witch at an open event held by a local coven or a priest/ess going to your cousin’s baptism, odds are good you will attend a service held by another faith. Nervous about standing out or making a mistake? No worries, I’ve got your back, Jack! Here are a few tips to keep in mind.
- Do your research: The number one way to feel your best in a given situation is to know what you’re getting yourself into. So talk to a friend or read up on the faith and the kind of service you’re attending.
- Dress the part: I’m not saying go out and buy a yamaka for your best friend’s kid’s bar mitzvah (although you could. They make some that look like baseballs that I think are kind of awesome). But a lot of religions have a dress code, which you my want to keep in mind when getting ready for the day. A good friend of mine got in A LOT of trouble for wearing shorts while visiting Vatican City. Make it part of your research to find out if the faith you’re ‘visiting’ has one. If you wear a pentagram or any other symbol, feel free to keep it on, especially if your friends and family know about your spirituality. You may have to answer some questions, though, so be prepared for that. If you want to avoid questions, perhaps leave the pent at home. Or choose a more universal symbol, such as the Tree of Life. Use your judgment.
- Do not say or do anything you do not feel comfortable doing or do not believe to be true: Dianic witch at a United Methodist service? May not want to say the Apostle’s Creed. Don’t be a jerk about it but respectfully decline, even if you’re on the fence about it.
- Be respectful: Treat any sacred space as if it were your own.
- Enjoy the event, even if it’s one little detail: If I am dying of uncomfortableness, I pick one thing to focus on that I like. It’s usually stained glass. If I can find beauty in the art, it makes the day so much easier.
© Ariadne Woods