Generally I try to adhere to the Rede principle of Harm None. While perhaps it is too black and white or too simplified, I interpret it as living in a way that has no intention of hurting other and when I do harm someone taking action to rectify the problem. However I daily struggle with adhering to this principle in the grey areas.
Take last evening. I was in a situation that I felt really unsafe in my own room* because someone came into my suite without permission and deeply insulted my roommates and me. It scared me so much that I ended up spending the night at my boyfriend’s place. In the aftermath, I am wrestling with the question of what action to take in response. On one level, I am waiting to hear back from my residence administrators about the pseudo-legal consequences and the potential dialogue to prevent this from happening again. But what I am struggling with is the actual violation of entering my home and making me feel weird. I cannot believe anyone would do that. It’s the college equivalent of breaking and entering. He harmed my sense of security. I am going to have to work hard to achieve peace and safety in my suite.
While I wait for an answer from my school, my main goal is to take my anger and channel it into recreating my sense of home in my dorm room. I have constructed a permanent shield around my room with highly filtering properties. It makes me feel more secure and more comfortable. I also am going to do a full cleanse on Saturday and perhaps put up some runes or stones that will help deflect negative energy. I have already resolved that it is not my place to personally confront this person, both in the mundane and the magical. That is what the residence administration is for, to mediate disputes. For me to respond with malice, it just keeps the cycle of conflict going which I do not want. Regardless of the outcome, I will work hard to resolve this situation within the bounds of my faith.
© Ariadne Woods
*I apologize that I can’t give a full account of what happened. I have been asked to keep the situation quiet and even though I do not publish under my given name, I still want to respect the wishes of my building administration.