I got dumped last week by my (now ex) boyfriend. Did not see it coming, nor am I really okay with it. But c’est la vie, right? I’ll be fine in a few weeks, but for now I am a tad miserable.
On my many, many reflections on this incident, I can’t help noting the irony of being let go and being forced to let someone go during this particular season. The weeks leading up to Samhain are all about releasing. Get rid of everything you don’t want or need for the new year. Old habits, old clothes, and old girlfriends, apparently.
Releasing is one of the hardest things a person has to do. I think this difficulty is intrinsically tied with the idea that because you let something or someone go, it is dead, lost, and gone. That is far from the truth. That thing or person is always going to be a part of you until the day you cross over. Part of your history, as it were.
But it is also necessary for new things to take hold. One of my roommates this week said something that really struck a cord. As epic as this love was (and it was, trust me), the next one will be bigger and better. This idea has given me a sense of hope, which is just what I need even at my lowest moments.
So if you have things you need to let go of in this Samhain season, I encourage you to do it. You never know what might happen.
PS: For any of my readers who also have recently broken off a relationship or trying to release anything in their lives, CharmingPixieFlora has two videos that helped me a lot, posted below.
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